2018-08-04Women learn that they are not supposed to be sexual without falling in love, men learn that sex is a commodity that you get from a woman, men may even learn that women themselves are commodities.
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2018-06-01If being alone seems unbearable to you, the courage required to relinquish what’s “yours” may be impossible to summon.
2018-06-01Faithfulness is about honoring your commitments and respecting your friends and lovers, about caring for their well-being as well as your own.
2018-06-01Jealousy is often the mask worn by the most difficult inner conflict you have going on right now, a conflict that’s crying out to be resolved and you don’t even know it.
2018-06-01It is unrealistic, for example, to ask your partners never to enter into sexual interactions with people that they care about “too much.” There is no way to define “too much,” and few of us conceive of our polyamorous utopia as a world in which you are only allowed to share sex with people you don’t care about at all. None of us can truthfully agree to feel only this way or that way: our agreements need to have room in them for real emotions […]
2018-06-01We think it will, that if you loosen your possessive grip on the love that’s already yours, you’ll get more, from the person who loves you, and maybe from some other people too.
2018-06-25You’ve probably been taught to reserve the language of love for when you’re feeling overwhelmingly tender and passionate, and only for those who have made huge commitments to you.
2018-06-24It’s a very good idea for everyone to learn to live single — to figure out how to get your needs met without being partnered, so you don’t find yourself seeking a partner to fill needs that you ought to fill yourself.